A lot of time I was struggling how to approch people. How to start a conversation? Ask for something Or question. or give a compliment. The worse you can have is a no. Or the person would turn away.
If you feel like someone doesn't like you. You wont like the person too. This is what most do. Is it the best way to act? You dont have to attend all the fight you are invited to. Right?
I had many times before that I wasn't a welcomed person I dont know why?
You know what? I asked her opinion about something. I was questioning. I borrowed something. And I never ever been rejected. I never been ignored. Indeed!
It is that simple.
It doesn't mean you are going to be friends. It just makes both of you feel much better.The other thing that I notice on people that they reject those people who are better then they are themselves. ' Im not gonna be this person friends because she is better than me.' Or because she is smarter than me. Or because he has more money than me. I know not even one person who is like that.
A person who has more confident. who has success and who has a past is someone to whom we can go for advice. People who is better than you should be your teachers and not enemies. They are who they are because they worked for it. If you dont work hard you dont deserve what you have.
I was like that too, I confess. I felt sick with rich and success people. Because they had something while I had nothing. But then I just became friends with them. I started asking others opinions. And I looked at them and learnt so many things without asking. I am still learning. The way to talk. The way to argument. Or deal with problems.
The past days I also gave a thought about taking complimetns. If you take a compliment it doesn't mean you are so into yourself or that you are an egoist. It means you appreciate yourself and respect. Before..... I didn't like compliments. And I never believed.' Why this guy says I have a pretty eyes if I dont think so?' I guess the answer is easy. Because he thinks so?
Okay. I am gonna give again an example.
One of the girl I know never take compliments. She tells me. 'This guy told me I have a nice body. I said come one.. I dont have. '
If someone doesn't have self esteem that is screaming so loudly. I know that very well. And I know that one day people will be tired to pick up my ego for myself. And if I say I am ugly the answer is not going to be no you are not ugly. The answer is going to be yes you are, whatever. If someone doesn't think that she/he is beautiful, than doesn't deserve to be.
However I am not saying that thinking ' I am not good enough' is bad. It is actually good. This thought keeps us motivated and approchable.
I can tell if a guy thinks he is good enough I would skip him just the way he is. Just like that. We all have flaws wthat makes up inperfectly perfect. We all have something that we dont like about ourselves. Or that we never will accept. Or that we rather hide.
But I am telling it, the other will never care. It's like I know what my love doesn't like about himself. If I had a boyfriend. But what if I like exactly those things? Because these sort of inperfections makes him approachable. It's like we know what we know. And we still want. Sometimes I wish I could meet someone in the future and in the past. We changed from year to year. We know we have a past right? Would that person want me in the past? When we have our flaws that person didn't want us then. He is never gonna deserve when we are somebodies
We can fix those flaws. If we really want to. But never do it for someone else's sake. Do it for ourselves.
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